I sincerely ask for your forgiveness and to be restored as your pastor. This pastors comments are so utterly ridiculous they are hardly worth addressing. Im glad that the Internet has caught up with this particular preacher. The RELATED: After sermon criticizing wives weight, pastor resigns as moderator of General Baptist meeting, Why is it so many times that women after they get married let themselves go? he asked in the sermon, standing on a stage with what appeared to be a large open Bible in his left hand. I dont know, but all I can say is not everybody looks like that. At one point, he began talking about how happy he was that his wife attended Weight Watchers. Other uncategorized cookies are those that are being analyzed and have not been classified into a category as yet. Are you sure that you want to delete this flower? Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark of Missouris Malden First General Baptist Church said in his Sunday sermon that women should look to maintain their figures and lose weight in order to keep their husbands attention. This is our goal and we encourage the congregation toward the same love and forgiveness.. It also seems to imply he thinks that wanting a trophy wife is a good thing. Men, put this on your headboard at your house. He then quoted from 1 Corinthians 7:4. When contacted by The Post, General Baptist Ministries declined further comment but noted a statement on the churchs website: As of March 2, 2021, Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark has taken a leave of absence and is seeking professional counseling. The Post was unable to obtain contact information for Clark. I didnt find the apology compelling at all. And why is he already talking about restoration? We are made this way, we cant help ourselves," he said, without a reference to scripture. Its abuse dressed up as righteous indignation. Now anything said online can be sky-lined by some aggrieved person or group. Its to make women scapegoats for mens misdeeds; to exert power and control; to blame the victim. This seems like a classic example of too little, too late. . My heart goes out to his wife. So why are women held responsible for the male gaze? This makes me feel sick. When Ramadan means an escalation of Israeli occupation violence, Who are Jehovahs Witnesses? He made us to look. Thank God for your good mind, your compelling writing, your strong voice and your courage to speak up. Since the leadership has chosen to keep him, I guess it will be up to the congregants to vote with their feet. Bob will be remembered as a hard-working, kind soul who would always help out a friend. Amen! We men need pastors and leaders of your caliber Ruth to teach us, lead us, reprimand us, and instruct us. I should still you stuff. Reagan Williams shared a video of the sermon to Facebook with the caption: On this lovely Sunday morning I spent my time getting ready listening to a head pastor in Malden who so nonchalantly decided to exercise pastoral abuse towards women., He fails to use Bible verses to back up his nonsense,the artistwrote. 
When Pastor Lumpy Rutherford shows his true colors the first time, believe him. Learn more about merges. IE 11 is not supported. He may sugar-coat his message for a while, but its not sincere. Toward that end, the site requires that people use their full name when commenting. Stewart-Allen Clark is reportedly the pastor of the First General Baptist Church in Malden. Theres a double, woohoo! One foundational element of rape culture is treating women as if they are responsible for the male gaze. . Vatican releases popes Canada itinerary, a sign trip is on, J.D. Stewart-Allen Clark, pastor of the First General Baptist Church in Malden, Missouri, is seen in video clips of a Feb. 21 sermon questioning the appearance of women after they marry their husbands. I agree with Dan Crabtree that the apology didnt have any of the usual squirming out of taking responsibility that often accompanies a public apology. ! What he does not say that he is sorry for his heart attitude towards women because its his heart that is the source and origin of everything he originally said. The deacons recommended prayer for unity and harmony in the congregation going forward. His true nature is that of a narrow-minded misogynist. Men have a need for their women to look like women, he continued. To donate, click here. Its bad enough that hes a jerk, but everyone was laughing at his jokes.. In his new statement, Clark, whos been on a leave of absence since Feb. 28, noted that he has been meeting with a professional counselor. 
Now look, Im not saying every woman can be the epic, the epic trophy wife of all time like Melania Trump, he said. Flowers added to the memorial appear on the bottom of the memorial or here on the Flowers tab. At one point, he began talking about how happy he was that his wife attended Weight Watchers. In that video, Clark takes the cringe to new levels: He says hed love to be a hot woman and arm candy. He jokes about how, if beautiful Southern women are BOTH husbands and wives do often let themselves go in appearance, hygiene, and emotional support. He said his wife has had three kids, and had become "robust" so she started Weight Watchers and lost up to 50 pounds. ", After Baptist PastorTells Wives to Lose Weight, His Church is in Crisis Mode. I sincerely ask for your forgiveness and to be restored as your pastor. Please check your email and click on the link to activate your account. Rather, it reads as a silver-tongued version of, Im sorry if your feelings got hurt. Moreover, why did it take this long for the situation to have been addressed? Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark of Missouris Malden First General Baptist Church said in his Sunday sermon that women should look to maintain their figures and lose weight Which memorial do you think is a duplicate of Robert Clark (244100981)? Times Internet Limited. Not everybody looks like that. Part of the Image of God in each of us is that our senses belong to us uniquely. Its called dialectic, and ratcheting. Personally Id already be finding a new church. In a statement posted to the website of First General Baptist Church of Malden, Missouri, Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark wrote: In the sermon, I made insensitive remarks about women and made statements deemed unbiblical. It wasnt a one-off mistake. Stewart-Allen Clark, pastor of First General Baptist Church in Malden, Missouri, apologized for the sermon, and the deacons of the church reaffirmed him. We have set your language to We bear the blame for not offering our pastor counsel, correction, and restoration when errors or inappropriate content was presented.. Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark of 1st General Baptist Church in Malden, Missouri, delivered an enthusiastic sermon on Sunday, which included advice specifically for the Its websites contact form is currently not available.. Sign up for a weekly brief collating many news items into one untangled thought delivered straight to your mailbox. You want them to be looking at you. Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark of Missouri's Malden First General Baptist Church said in his Sunday sermon that women should look to maintain their figures and lose weight in order to keep their husband's attention. 
No wonder Christians treat a mans gaze as if it belongs to the thing being gazed upon. ", "You need to know this, men have a need for their women to look like women. He preaches specifically about the male gaze, telling women that theyre responsible for what their husbands look at. 
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I always thought that a pastor was supposed to exposit Gods word? A real apology would have been I made statements that were unbiblical and unChristlike and I repent and turn away from them completely.. If you were sitting in my office, heres the first thing I would say to you, and boy I hate to say this, this is why I dont do marital counseling anymore, and that is weight control. (I hate to body shame but in this one instance Stewart-Allen? And thats a problem. 
He should not be in this line of work, and hell never be any different. The pastor of a General Baptist congregation, who last month preached that weight control by wives could solve marital problems, has apologized publicly to his congregation. "Im glad I have a wife that understands that's the way I am.". Required fields are marked *. Don't let yourself go.". Now look, Im not saying every woman can be the epic, the epic trophy wife of all time like Melania Trump, he said. 
A Missouri pastor sparked outrage following a sermon he gavethat many are calling sexist and misogynistic. Instead of, I am deeply sorry for any and all pain or distress that my words brought on you, I am sorry for my off-base and offensive words. Instead of, I want to say to the church that Im truly sorry that I embarrassed you, how about Im truly sorry that I preached such a wrong message to you.. I want to say to the church that Im truly sorry that I embarrassed you, he said in the statement addressed to Dear Church & Community., I recognize and understand that what I said was imprudent and discourteous. I pray he gets the help he needs. Quickly see who the memorial is for and when they lived and died and where they are buried. You are both spot on! Have you looked at yourself lately? "Praise God for makeup. The deacons of the church also posted a statement on the church website, which added their own apology for what they considered to be complacency about how their churchs pulpit was used. Edit a memorial you manage or suggest changes to the memorial manager. In this sermon (which makes no biblical references) preacher Clark goes on to harangue women to lose weight. This is a carousel with slides. Times Syndication Service. Previously sponsored memorials or famous memorials will not have this option. This flower has been reported and will not be visible while under review. Christian churches have so many spineless leaders. Asking for forgiveness is of course appropriate but asking in the same sentence to be restored because he genuinely believes its the best way forward doesnt show much repentance or humility. Oh about 60 pounds," Clark said to laughs. Why do they do that?. This switch is what Im exercising in this brief essay. His apology amounts to an abusers Im sorry you feel that way. Please tell me the congregation and leadership have thought how to support her. Thank you Susan and Bonnie. It's unclear whether the video shows the full sermon. Its the new reality. Like all of us at times, I hope he has learned from his mistake, the real issue, and only he knows is if he attitude in his heart has changed on how he views women. Women are responsible when men other than their own husbands lustfully gaze upon them. He added that he has a friend who has put a "divorce weight" limit on his wife. Clark did not respond to multiple requests for comment from NBC News. I truly hope so. Your Scrapbook is currently empty. I dont think this even sounds like a real apology. Your gaze, and your response to what you read, belongs to you and you alone. Learn about how to make the most of a memorial. All I can say is, not everybody looks like that, amenBut you dont need to look like a butch either!. You need a Find a Grave account to continue. He preaches specifically about the male gaze, telling women that theyre responsible for what their husbands look at. What do you think a deeper investigation might uncover? 
Give a gift of $30 or more to The Roys Report this month, and you will receive a copy of Jesus v. Evangelicals: A Biblical Critique of a Wayward Movement by Constantine Campbell. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. You nailed it! "General Baptists believe that every woman was created in the image of God, and they should be valued for that reason," the statement said. I see no understanding mentioned of a husbands role (potentially) in any of this marital distress. The object of a gaze becomes an object. "After you get married, men, put this on your headboard in the house," Clark said. Towards the end, Clark endorsed the idea of marital rape. A Missouri pastor is on leave after a video emerged of him preaching that wives should strive to be thin, made up, well-dressed and satisfying in the bedroom to keep their husbands interested because "God made men to be drawn to beautiful women.". 
"You can call it juvenile, immature, sexist," Clark said. But you don't need to look like a butch either.". But you dont need to look like a butch either! He says these things while peering into an open Bible, as if Melania herself might be hiding between its covers. (RNS) The pastor of a General Baptist congregation has apologized to his church for a sermon in which he preached that weight control by wives could solve marital problems. "Why is it so many times that women after they get married let themselves go," Clark asked. It also expressed his politics, since he went on to say Now, look, Im not saying every woman can be the epic, the epic trophy wife of all time, like Melania Trump Im not saying that at all, not everybody looks like that! But General Baptist Ministries does not have control over independent congregations' employment, the statement said. We are called to model Christs love through forgiveness and restoration toward our Pastor, they wrote. I know Ive said things I thought were right and they were way off in a Church setting. We, the deacons of the First General Baptist Church of Malden, Missouri, offer this unreserved apology to our congregation, our surrounding communities, our denomination, and the followers of Jesus Christ everywhere, they wrote. Advertisement cookies are used to provide visitors with relevant ads and marketing campaigns. Mark my words, cliques of trustees and elders are putting these lunatics up front on purpose. Why is the hatred of women so commonplace in church culture? Lead on! Ladies, its the way God made us. It makes the gazer not responsible for his gazing. Please ensure you have given Find a Grave permission to access your location in your browser settings. 
In his new statement, Clark noted that he has been meeting with a professional counselor during his leave of absence. Clark made waves with a Sunday sermon in February where he said that women should strive to stay slim to keep men interested. Give a gift of $30 or more to The Roys Report this month, and you will receive a copy of "Jesus v. Evangelicals: A Biblical Critique of a Wayward Movement" by Constantine Campbell. He says that physical beauty is within the reach of every woman. (His description of physical beauty, as we all know by now, is extremely narrow.) This apology is actually the man thumbing his nose at everyone who was willing to call him out. Sermons were church family affairs. Im not saying that at all,Clark said as a photo of Trump was displayed on screen. THE HILL 1625 K STREET, NW SUITE 900 WASHINGTON DC 20006 | 202-628-8500 TEL | 202-628-8503 FAX. Why dont you ask him what makeup looks good on you?" After his wife, incredibly enough, didnt leap on stage and murder him, somehow, his sermon got worse. The seat was so wide, three of me could have sat in it. Thanks for your support, Don. Maybe thats the deeper issue. Failed to delete flower. I couldnt disagree more with the commenters who think this sounds sincere. Men have to have sexual intimacy, or theyre not happy. There was a repeating sketch on Saturday Night Live many moons ago where the key lines were, Look at yourself. The sponsor of a memorial may add an additional. Dont give him a reason to be looking around. It used to be a preacher could apologize to the people offended or clarify the poorly worded remark in a subsequent sermon. Want more from the Friendly Atheist? Lets tell the truth and shame the devil. 
Oops, something didn't work. I am so sorry. Clark has also taken down his Facebook page. Family members linked to this person will appear here. And some are less courteous, kind, polite, and considerate of spouses than they would be a stranger. 
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Time for Imago Dei to apply to women as it does to men. Thank you for fulfilling this photo request. Thepost garnered 3,000 comments with many condemning the sermon as offensive and inappropriate. This is part of our agency. Over the past day or two, Stewart-Allen Clark, a Baptist pastor in Missouri, has found himself in very hot water for his creeptastic recent sermon about womens bodies. The fallout has been just incredible! However, what Clark said has simply been evangelicals standard operating procedures around women since well before I joined them in the 1980s. Stewart-Allen Clark has at least temporarily left his pastorship and is seeking professional counseling after a Sunday sermon went viral in which he wonders aloud why wives let themselves go, jokes that wedding cake diminishes the female sex drive, and admonishes women not to get their haircut or look butch. Year should not be greater than current year. The fact that he claims that what he said was deemed unbiblical rather than completely opposite of the heart of God is telling and shocking. And the powers at the church are still discussing his options? What a joke. Too often we hear Im sorry IF I offended someone or something similar with a defensive element to it. His overseers should make losing 30 pounds one condition of his restoration. "General Baptist Ministries does not have authority related to the employment of any pastor or church leader in a local congregation," the post read. While it appears to be mixing a metaphor, making women responsible for the male gaze is the exact opposite of seeing through another persons eyes. Seeing through another persons eyes has nothing to do with physical gaze. In early March, the leaders of the General Baptist Council of Associations stated Clark had resigned from the position of moderator of the General Association of General Baptists meeting scheduled for July 2022. "Whats the difference between a man's wife and a man's girlfriend? This is why they must be slim and attractive. Ooohwhoo! These cookies track visitors across websites and collect information to provide customized ads. Most women cant be trophy wives like her, maybe youre a participation trophy. To punctuate his point, Clark threw in some points that smack of homophobia and transphobia. We are called to model Christs love through forgiveness and restoration toward our Pastor, they wrote. The post also noted that Clark has stepped down from his position as a moderator for an upcoming meeting for the General Association of General Baptist. I sincerely ask for your forgiveness and to be restored as your pastor. But I will never deny that you are using your own eyes to read these words. Search above to list available cemeteries. I'm not saying that at all," Clark said during his sermon, as a photo of Trump was shown behind him on screen. 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When Pastor Lumpy Rutherford shows his true colors the first time, believe him. Learn more about merges. IE 11 is not supported. He may sugar-coat his message for a while, but its not sincere. Toward that end, the site requires that people use their full name when commenting. Stewart-Allen Clark is reportedly the pastor of the First General Baptist Church in Malden. Theres a double, woohoo! One foundational element of rape culture is treating women as if they are responsible for the male gaze. . Vatican releases popes Canada itinerary, a sign trip is on, J.D. Stewart-Allen Clark, pastor of the First General Baptist Church in Malden, Missouri, is seen in video clips of a Feb. 21 sermon questioning the appearance of women after they marry their husbands. I agree with Dan Crabtree that the apology didnt have any of the usual squirming out of taking responsibility that often accompanies a public apology. ! What he does not say that he is sorry for his heart attitude towards women because its his heart that is the source and origin of everything he originally said. The deacons recommended prayer for unity and harmony in the congregation going forward. His true nature is that of a narrow-minded misogynist. Men have a need for their women to look like women, he continued. To donate, click here. Its bad enough that hes a jerk, but everyone was laughing at his jokes.. In his new statement, Clark, whos been on a leave of absence since Feb. 28, noted that he has been meeting with a professional counselor. Now look, Im not saying every woman can be the epic, the epic trophy wife of all time like Melania Trump, he said. Flowers added to the memorial appear on the bottom of the memorial or here on the Flowers tab. At one point, he began talking about how happy he was that his wife attended Weight Watchers. In that video, Clark takes the cringe to new levels: He says hed love to be a hot woman and arm candy. He jokes about how, if beautiful Southern women are BOTH husbands and wives do often let themselves go in appearance, hygiene, and emotional support. He said his wife has had three kids, and had become "robust" so she started Weight Watchers and lost up to 50 pounds. ", After Baptist PastorTells Wives to Lose Weight, His Church is in Crisis Mode. I sincerely ask for your forgiveness and to be restored as your pastor. Please check your email and click on the link to activate your account. Rather, it reads as a silver-tongued version of, Im sorry if your feelings got hurt. Moreover, why did it take this long for the situation to have been addressed? Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark of Missouris Malden First General Baptist Church said in his Sunday sermon that women should look to maintain their figures and lose weight Which memorial do you think is a duplicate of Robert Clark (244100981)? Times Internet Limited. Not everybody looks like that. Part of the Image of God in each of us is that our senses belong to us uniquely. Its called dialectic, and ratcheting. Personally Id already be finding a new church. In a statement posted to the website of First General Baptist Church of Malden, Missouri, Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark wrote: In the sermon, I made insensitive remarks about women and made statements deemed unbiblical. It wasnt a one-off mistake. Stewart-Allen Clark, pastor of First General Baptist Church in Malden, Missouri, apologized for the sermon, and the deacons of the church reaffirmed him. We have set your language to We bear the blame for not offering our pastor counsel, correction, and restoration when errors or inappropriate content was presented.. Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark of 1st General Baptist Church in Malden, Missouri, delivered an enthusiastic sermon on Sunday, which included advice specifically for the Its websites contact form is currently not available.. Sign up for a weekly brief collating many news items into one untangled thought delivered straight to your mailbox. You want them to be looking at you. Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark of Missouri's Malden First General Baptist Church said in his Sunday sermon that women should look to maintain their figures and lose weight in order to keep their husband's attention. No wonder Christians treat a mans gaze as if it belongs to the thing being gazed upon. ", "You need to know this, men have a need for their women to look like women. He preaches specifically about the male gaze, telling women that theyre responsible for what their husbands look at. Found more than one record for entered Email, You need to confirm this account before you can sign in. Let he who is without sin etc. And home should also be a place where one can relax and let ones hair down. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Your email address will not be published. An undeserving husband to a beautiful wife, and a father to 4 beautiful children. (The preacher apparently didnt notice that the picture didnt support his point.). Becoming a Find a Grave member is fast, easy and FREE. I always thought that a pastor was supposed to exposit Gods word? A real apology would have been I made statements that were unbiblical and unChristlike and I repent and turn away from them completely.. If you were sitting in my office, heres the first thing I would say to you, and boy I hate to say this, this is why I dont do marital counseling anymore, and that is weight control. (I hate to body shame but in this one instance Stewart-Allen? And thats a problem. He should not be in this line of work, and hell never be any different. The pastor of a General Baptist congregation, who last month preached that weight control by wives could solve marital problems, has apologized publicly to his congregation. "Im glad I have a wife that understands that's the way I am.". Required fields are marked *. Don't let yourself go.". Now look, Im not saying every woman can be the epic, the epic trophy wife of all time like Melania Trump, he said. A Missouri pastor sparked outrage following a sermon he gavethat many are calling sexist and misogynistic. Instead of, I am deeply sorry for any and all pain or distress that my words brought on you, I am sorry for my off-base and offensive words. Instead of, I want to say to the church that Im truly sorry that I embarrassed you, how about Im truly sorry that I preached such a wrong message to you.. I want to say to the church that Im truly sorry that I embarrassed you, he said in the statement addressed to Dear Church & Community., I recognize and understand that what I said was imprudent and discourteous. I pray he gets the help he needs. Quickly see who the memorial is for and when they lived and died and where they are buried. You are both spot on! Have you looked at yourself lately? "Praise God for makeup. The deacons of the church also posted a statement on the church website, which added their own apology for what they considered to be complacency about how their churchs pulpit was used. Edit a memorial you manage or suggest changes to the memorial manager. In this sermon (which makes no biblical references) preacher Clark goes on to harangue women to lose weight. This is a carousel with slides. Times Syndication Service. Previously sponsored memorials or famous memorials will not have this option. This flower has been reported and will not be visible while under review. Christian churches have so many spineless leaders. Asking for forgiveness is of course appropriate but asking in the same sentence to be restored because he genuinely believes its the best way forward doesnt show much repentance or humility. Oh about 60 pounds," Clark said to laughs. Why do they do that?. This switch is what Im exercising in this brief essay. His apology amounts to an abusers Im sorry you feel that way. Please tell me the congregation and leadership have thought how to support her. Thank you Susan and Bonnie. It's unclear whether the video shows the full sermon. Its the new reality. Like all of us at times, I hope he has learned from his mistake, the real issue, and only he knows is if he attitude in his heart has changed on how he views women. Women are responsible when men other than their own husbands lustfully gaze upon them. He added that he has a friend who has put a "divorce weight" limit on his wife. Clark did not respond to multiple requests for comment from NBC News. I truly hope so. Your Scrapbook is currently empty. I dont think this even sounds like a real apology. Your gaze, and your response to what you read, belongs to you and you alone. Learn about how to make the most of a memorial. All I can say is, not everybody looks like that, amenBut you dont need to look like a butch either!. You need a Find a Grave account to continue. He preaches specifically about the male gaze, telling women that theyre responsible for what their husbands look at. What do you think a deeper investigation might uncover? Give a gift of $30 or more to The Roys Report this month, and you will receive a copy of Jesus v. Evangelicals: A Biblical Critique of a Wayward Movement by Constantine Campbell. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. You nailed it! "General Baptists believe that every woman was created in the image of God, and they should be valued for that reason," the statement said. I see no understanding mentioned of a husbands role (potentially) in any of this marital distress. The object of a gaze becomes an object. "After you get married, men, put this on your headboard in the house," Clark said. Towards the end, Clark endorsed the idea of marital rape. A Missouri pastor is on leave after a video emerged of him preaching that wives should strive to be thin, made up, well-dressed and satisfying in the bedroom to keep their husbands interested because "God made men to be drawn to beautiful women.". "You can call it juvenile, immature, sexist," Clark said. But you don't need to look like a butch either.". But you dont need to look like a butch either! He says these things while peering into an open Bible, as if Melania herself might be hiding between its covers. (RNS) The pastor of a General Baptist congregation has apologized to his church for a sermon in which he preached that weight control by wives could solve marital problems. "Why is it so many times that women after they get married let themselves go," Clark asked. It also expressed his politics, since he went on to say Now, look, Im not saying every woman can be the epic, the epic trophy wife of all time, like Melania Trump Im not saying that at all, not everybody looks like that! But General Baptist Ministries does not have control over independent congregations' employment, the statement said. We are called to model Christs love through forgiveness and restoration toward our Pastor, they wrote. I know Ive said things I thought were right and they were way off in a Church setting. We, the deacons of the First General Baptist Church of Malden, Missouri, offer this unreserved apology to our congregation, our surrounding communities, our denomination, and the followers of Jesus Christ everywhere, they wrote. Advertisement cookies are used to provide visitors with relevant ads and marketing campaigns. Mark my words, cliques of trustees and elders are putting these lunatics up front on purpose. Why is the hatred of women so commonplace in church culture? Lead on! Ladies, its the way God made us. It makes the gazer not responsible for his gazing. Please ensure you have given Find a Grave permission to access your location in your browser settings. In his new statement, Clark noted that he has been meeting with a professional counselor during his leave of absence. Clark made waves with a Sunday sermon in February where he said that women should strive to stay slim to keep men interested. Give a gift of $30 or more to The Roys Report this month, and you will receive a copy of "Jesus v. Evangelicals: A Biblical Critique of a Wayward Movement" by Constantine Campbell. He says that physical beauty is within the reach of every woman. (His description of physical beauty, as we all know by now, is extremely narrow.) This apology is actually the man thumbing his nose at everyone who was willing to call him out. Sermons were church family affairs. Im not saying that at all,Clark said as a photo of Trump was displayed on screen. THE HILL 1625 K STREET, NW SUITE 900 WASHINGTON DC 20006 | 202-628-8500 TEL | 202-628-8503 FAX. Why dont you ask him what makeup looks good on you?" After his wife, incredibly enough, didnt leap on stage and murder him, somehow, his sermon got worse. The seat was so wide, three of me could have sat in it. Thanks for your support, Don. Maybe thats the deeper issue. Failed to delete flower. I couldnt disagree more with the commenters who think this sounds sincere. Men have to have sexual intimacy, or theyre not happy. There was a repeating sketch on Saturday Night Live many moons ago where the key lines were, Look at yourself. The sponsor of a memorial may add an additional. Dont give him a reason to be looking around. It used to be a preacher could apologize to the people offended or clarify the poorly worded remark in a subsequent sermon. Want more from the Friendly Atheist? Lets tell the truth and shame the devil. Oops, something didn't work. I am so sorry. Clark has also taken down his Facebook page. Family members linked to this person will appear here. And some are less courteous, kind, polite, and considerate of spouses than they would be a stranger. Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. Use of and/or registration on any portion of this site constitutes acceptance of our. ). The public remark simply reveals Stewart-Allen Clarks private viewsand the fact that he is unaccustomed to being challenged for them. Time for Imago Dei to apply to women as it does to men. Thank you for fulfilling this photo request. Thepost garnered 3,000 comments with many condemning the sermon as offensive and inappropriate. This is part of our agency. Over the past day or two, Stewart-Allen Clark, a Baptist pastor in Missouri, has found himself in very hot water for his creeptastic recent sermon about womens bodies. The fallout has been just incredible! However, what Clark said has simply been evangelicals standard operating procedures around women since well before I joined them in the 1980s. Stewart-Allen Clark has at least temporarily left his pastorship and is seeking professional counseling after a Sunday sermon went viral in which he wonders aloud why wives let themselves go, jokes that wedding cake diminishes the female sex drive, and admonishes women not to get their haircut or look butch. Year should not be greater than current year. The fact that he claims that what he said was deemed unbiblical rather than completely opposite of the heart of God is telling and shocking. And the powers at the church are still discussing his options? What a joke. Too often we hear Im sorry IF I offended someone or something similar with a defensive element to it. His overseers should make losing 30 pounds one condition of his restoration. "General Baptist Ministries does not have authority related to the employment of any pastor or church leader in a local congregation," the post read. While it appears to be mixing a metaphor, making women responsible for the male gaze is the exact opposite of seeing through another persons eyes. Seeing through another persons eyes has nothing to do with physical gaze. In early March, the leaders of the General Baptist Council of Associations stated Clark had resigned from the position of moderator of the General Association of General Baptists meeting scheduled for July 2022. "Whats the difference between a man's wife and a man's girlfriend? This is why they must be slim and attractive. Ooohwhoo! These cookies track visitors across websites and collect information to provide customized ads. Most women cant be trophy wives like her, maybe youre a participation trophy. To punctuate his point, Clark threw in some points that smack of homophobia and transphobia. We are called to model Christs love through forgiveness and restoration toward our Pastor, they wrote. The post also noted that Clark has stepped down from his position as a moderator for an upcoming meeting for the General Association of General Baptist. I sincerely ask for your forgiveness and to be restored as your pastor. But I will never deny that you are using your own eyes to read these words. Search above to list available cemeteries. I'm not saying that at all," Clark said during his sermon, as a photo of Trump was shown behind him on screen. Lake on 2024 hopefuls who dont believe her Arizona election was stolen: a Clarence Thomas says he was advised he didnt have to disclose trips A backwards betrayal: Biden Title IX proposal draws criticism from LGBTQ As recession looms, who will Biden blame? "I dont think women understand how important it is for a man to have a beautiful woman on his arm.". Great! 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